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Article: Marry Him!

I didn't write this piece from The Atlantic, but I caught a link of it on Trish Ryan's blog. In the article, Lori Gottlieb writes about settling. Why am I posting it here? Because she dedicates a chunk of this rather long essay to dating books for women. A sample:

"The approaches in these books may differ, but the message is the same: more important than love is marriage. To achieve that goal, women across the country are poring over guidebooks that all boil down to determining, 'Does he like me?,' while completely overlooking the equally essential question, 'Do I like him?'

I'm not giving the thumbs up or thumbs down to her opinion (though I do agree with her stance on dating books written for women). Just thought it was interesting. Plus, I'm still deep in the trenches of that wonderful-yet-dense-book. So read on!

Comments

Nadine said…
As a soon to be 30 year old women (okay, next year, but still), I'm actually insulted by this article. My life does not revolve around my dating agenda - if I meet someone who is worth seeing, great, but if not, my life is pretty fulfilling already. In fact, I wouldn't change where I am right now for anything - including a husband (heck, dating can be a heck of a lot of fun!). And what about those of us who don't see kids in our lives? This view seems so narrow and stereotypical. If I feel differently in about ten years though, I'll be sure to let you know!
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